wedding myths

this post is inspired when chatting with a friend online, when we were talking about wedding preparations and stuff. after my own wedding, i realized that there are in fact quite a few myths that are well, just myths.

wedding myths:

• You need a great amount of time, to be safe, a year, to plan your dream wedding.
• You also need a great amount of money, to be safe, $30K, to make your wedding come true.
• You need to book ahead for venues for your wedding dinner, bridal package, because these things come with a Queue.

myths busted (in respective order)

• NOT TRUE. With good organizational skills, an eye for detail and 0 wedding planning experience, it is possible. Even within 1-2months.
• NOT TRUE. If you are going to hold a traditional chinese wedding dinner (at least), proper budgeting and wise choice of locations, will ensure an equally memorable and fun wedding experience. $30K and above is probably just a very safe choice in case any extra costs are incurred.
• NOT TRUE. Pls, there are tons, TONS of bridal studios clamoring for your business out there. What makes you think they will take a look at you and say, come again next year, we are fully booked? They will find ways to SQUEEZE you in, trust me.
  Unless you want to custom make your gown and bridal wear, then there is no choice for this but to book for it a few months in advance, cos there just isn’t the technology to finish a gown in days YET.

These are all based on personal experience and not groundless assumptions, so take it with a pinch of salt. Just felt like busting some wedding myths, because when I hear people telling me “OH, you need at least a year to plan”, etc etc…makes me wanna ROLL MY EYES.

:)

One important thing to take note of, which I regretfully couldn’t make it happen as intended: Make sure you get your own house first.

Afterall, who wouldn’t like their own place to primp n pimp it up?

grins,
fifi

StARCK

is there any architect or designer from past you appreciate a lot?
I am not interested in architects or designers.
I no longer wish to talk about design.

-from an interview with starck

NOW, that is nonchalance at its best. speak like that only if you are qualified enough to do so. love it. when the day comes that i’m able to say this, i will say, i am successful.

musing,
fifi

freaky

dear LORD.

http://www.duggarfamily.com/

SIAO.

incredulous,
fifi

ugliest

ok, ONE of the ugliest vodka designs ever for absolut. urgh.

unimpressed,
fifi

BUT, here is one of the latest and most gorgeous designs for absolut….I AM SO GETTING IT. it totally complements my absolut disco (which is the only absolut design i have in my possession)

Presenting, the absolut MASQUERADE…..

YES baby, you got THIS RIGHT.

bedazzled,
fifi

why, SO serious?

when things come your way
take it as it is
if it’s bad
dismiss it with a flick
if it’s good
revel in its glory

just like the way i do.

find funny in every little thing
the things you say
and things you do
and as they say
laughter is the king of cures

just like the way i do.

SO,
why SO serious?

cackling,
fifi

thank you

these are handmade cards for the brothers & sisters who joined us on 13.07.08, as a form of appreciation for their help and presence that made our day even more colorful and fun:

the envelopes

the cards

glittery initials

tough to do envelope, name encrusted with glitter

easier to do envelope

not to forget something for the man himself..

THANK U ALL!

made with love,
fifi

PS: For wedding album pictures: http://www.flickr.com/photos/48803791@N00/

coolbed

now, isn’t it cool to come home to a bed that looks like something out of a star wars movie?

very ambience-d,
fifi

typography

this is for you typographic maniacs:

http://wordle.net/create

typed,
fifi

words of sincerity

Some of these are true, and I’m happy to have met “the guy” (“,) :

When a GIRL is quiet … millions of things are running in her mind.
When a GIRL is not arguing … she is thinking deeply.
When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions … she is wondering how long you will be around.
When a GIRL answers ” I’m fine ” after a few seconds … she is not at all fine.

When a GIRL stares at you … she is wondering why you are lying.
When a GIRL lays on your chest … she is wishing for you to be hers forever.
When a GIRL wants to see you everyday… she wants to be pampered.
When a GIRL says ” I love you ” … she means it.
When a GIRL says ” I miss you ” … no one in this world can miss you more than that.

Life only comes around once make sure u spend it with the right person ….

Find a guy …
who calls you beautiful instead of hot.
Who calls you back when you hang up on him.
Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.

Wait for the guy …
Who kisses your forehead.
Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats.
Who holds your hand in front of his friends.
Who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.
Who turns to his friends and says, ” That’s her!! “

-credit to Q

xoxo,
fifi

i

really hate people who are not easygoing. in this case i mean the person who does NOT have the right for a final say nor is the person the main character of the situation.

beCAUSE,

no.1, they create unnecessary irritation and tension which is really, unnecessary and uncalled for.
no.2, they ruin the mood of those who are actually the main “characters”.
no.3, they create problems out of NOTHING.
no.4, they show no sense of understanding and respect to the main “characters”.
no.5, they generally ruin a relationship that could have been amiable in the 1st place.

really, people should take a lesson in life and learn, really learn for once, on how to put yourself into another’s shoes and think from that point of view which is not solely yours and yours alone. in any case, for me personally, i always think from another’s point of view before i want to give a comment or a suggestion, or even when giving a consolation to the person. it is a form of respect and understanding, that gives you the ability to first stop and think about what you are going to propose or say, which prevents causing unwanted unhappiness or displeasure when you say or do something that is uncalled for.

for the record, i’m addressing this post to everyone who reads it in general and not some petty post to target at certain things/people that i’m highly displeased with because i realised that it is this inability to do so in most people that causes alot of unneeded unhappiness in our lives.

i mean, why create unhappiness when you can focus on building happiness? it really doesnt make any sense to me at times. it’s like duo ci yi ju, as the chinese idiom goes.

think of it, perhaps you have said things that you shouldnt have said to a friend, that ruined a friendship, and you realise, if you have picked a different way to convey your point across (which might have been prolly less offensive than the one u picked), things might ve turned out different. you get your point of view across tactfully, your friend understood you, and the friendship remains. OR that you screamed something hurtful to your family member when you were quarelling (like “i wished i was never your son/daughter/bro/sis”) in a fit of blinding rage, and from then on, the relationship is strained.

you see, such things and actions are just a result of NOT THINKING BEFORE YOU SPEAK, which is really again, unnecessary and uncalled for in the very first place if you KNOW how to put yourself into the other party’s shoes and not think about your own selfish needs. the thing is, such things are tough to reverse, and are in fact, once the damage is done, it stays. people tend to remember the unhappy things that cause them hurt, even as much as they really want to forget it and get on with life. but that’s the way it is. you just cannot forget. it might dim over the years, but it’s still there like an annoying prick. any tiny situation might just trigger your memory again in the future but there’s really nothing you can do. prevention, is indeed better than cure.

just remember, if you dont like something and you are not the “star” of the issue, show respect to the final decision maker(s), give your thoughts, but don’t even TRY to control the issue because it is not yours in the first place.

pissed. i mean, peaced,
fifi